Ok, so, listen up, folks. This type of question (or similar) has come up a few times recently, so I want to share my heart with you.
Let’s start by rounding up the kind of questions/comments I’m talking about.
“Who are you taking those for?”
YOU, dummy.
“Why would someone take these kind of photos?”
Because your partner wants you looking at THEM. When you daydream and fantasize, they want you to be thinking about their body, their curves, their responses to your touch – not a nameless babe on the internet. Aside from that, maybe life has smacked your partner around a bit. Life WRECKS a body (and the majority of people don’t just bounce back from bodily trauma, whether that’s illness, birth, stress, you name it). You think your partner looks amazing and incredible (or at least, you SHOULD), but you know what they’re hung up on? How different they look and how out of control they feel about it. They may really just need the reminder that they are perfection.
“I don’t want someone else to see my partner like that.”
Let me help you out on this one. My job is similar to that of a massage therapist or a nurse – I have seen and photographed over five. hundred. women (and a few men). They all start to blur together at some point. Trust me, I don’t care. I’m not getting off on seeing your partner naked or mostly naked. Beyond me, these images are not seen by anyone expect myself and the people your partner decides to share them with.
“What even happens to the photos?”
On my end, unless I have EXPRESS. WRITTEN. PERMISSION. to share them online, they go on an encrypted hard drive and DIE THERE. And I even advise your partner to speak with you before they grant permission to share, just in case you feel some type of way about it. On your end, you might get an album or digital images that you can peruse whenever you want. Sounds like a win for YOU, if you ask me.
“I just don’t understand why…”
I know you’re aware of the societal standards placed on bodies – including for you. I know you have just as many insecurities as your partner, even if you don’t voice them. What would happen if you weren’t bogged down by that BS? Would you be more confident? Less afraid to speak up or stand out? Would you fidget with your clothing less if you felt your body wasn’t attracting judgemental attention? Would your brain have more space for literally anything and everything else if you didn’t spend time picking yourself apart in the mirror? YES. So why wouldn’t you want that for yourself? Why wouldn’t you want that for your partner?
Now, let’s talk about what can happen after a boudoir session and how it benefits you.
More confidence. We just talked about this a little, but let’s expand, shall we?
More confidence = more presence.
Your partner will want to enjoy life more because they are less focused on minor things like how their swimsuit fits. They’ll be more focused on not missing out and really enjoying themselves.
They’ll be less shy in the bedroom and less likely to hide. More likely to be an active participant, rather than crossing the t’s and dotting the i’s. When someone feels good in their skin, it’s easier to fee desired, feel wanted – and the results of that are exponential. When someone knows they rival what you see online and in the media and stops comparing themselves to the hottest star at the moment? They’re on a whole new level.
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